July Spotlight - Beth Crowley

This month I did an interview with our newest board member, Beth Crowley. She has been a member of Sister Survivors support group since almost the beginning. She has accepted the position of Secretary, and we are so excited to work with her. I'm sure you'll all love Beth. Here is our interview... ENJOY!



Sister Survivors: " What were you diagnosed with, and what treatments did you have? Who were your doctors?"

Beth: "I was diagnosed with Ductal carcinoma in situ, grade 3. My surgeon was Jennifer Tittensor. My plastic surgeon was Jon Bishop, and my oncologist is Steven Wallentine."

Sister Survivors: "How did your cancer diagnosis affect your family and friends?"

Beth: "I was the first member of my family to have cancer so no one really knew what to do or how to handle it. We talked about it a lot but did not let it take over our lives. We tried to laugh as much as possible even at the scary things."

Sister Survivors: "What was the hardest thing you had to go through during your cancer journey? What helped get you through it?"

Beth: "Physically the hardest thing was recovering from surgery. I had never been seriously ill before. Mentally, getting used to my new reality as a cancer survivor with a very altered body. My family was so helpful and supportive with everything I needed."



Sister Survivors: "How did your cancer diagnosis change your life?"

Beth: "It made me realize I am human and vulnerable. It was time to think about changing what I could to become as healthy as possible. "

Sister Survivors: "What did you learn during your cancer journey?"

Beth: "Oh….. I am still learning every day. "

Sister Survivors: "What have you changed as a result of your cancer diagnosis?"

Beth: "I try not to sweat the small stuff and I DON’T WEAR A BRA ANYMORE!!"

Sister Survivors: "Do you have a favorite book or quote or song that became meaningful to you during your cancer journey?"

Beth: "My T-shirt from “So Much More” that says across the chest - “Of course they are fake, the real ones tried to kill me.”

Sister Survivors: "What advice would you give to a woman who is newly diagnosed with breast cancer?"

Beth: "Research everything only on reputable websites and get many opinions from doctors and other cancer survivors."

Sister Survivors: "What advice would you give to friends and family of a newly diagnosed breast cancer patient?"

Beth: "They need to hear you say that everything is going to be alright, but be careful not to minimize their fear and what is happening to them."

Sister Survivors: "Finish this sentence… “I am a…”

Beth: "WOMAN… hear me roar!"

June Spotlight - DeLayne Dayton

DeLayne Dayton is one of our members who I don't know very well, so I thought interviewing her would be a good way to get to know her story. I hope you enjoy the interview...



Sister Survivors: "What were you diagnosed with, and what treatments did you have? Who were your doctors?"

DeLayne: "First of all, I was MIS-diagnosed in Sept. of 2009 after my very first mammogram when the doctor thought it was a cyst. Bless his heart. I did not know I should have had an ultrasound done, in which they would have done an immediate biopsy. This is what they did a year later when I returned having watched the "cyst" lump closely, noticing it change and grow. Diagnosis was DCIS-Ductal Carcenoma in Situ and Invasive Carcenoma.

Chemo medications were TCH-Taxotere, Carboplatin, and Herceptin (which I get every 3 weeks for one year). I had 6 chemo treatments total and went every 3 weeks. Following chemo was Radiation treatments for 28 times.

My doctors are Dr. Tittensor (surgeon), Dr. Clark (radiation oncologist), Dr. Bott (oncologist), and Dr. Bishop (reconstruction)."

Sister Survivors: "How did your cancer diagnosis affect your family and friends?"

DeLayne: "My husband and kids first thought (and frankly, mine too) was if I would die from breast cancer. We were very open with our 6 children ranging in age from 3-14. Of course the older ones understood more than the younger. We really came together as a family. The biggest blessing for us was the immediate and overwhelming support extended from family, friends, and neighbors. It was quite amazing and incredible for my children to see the goodness that comes from service, feeling the blessings of that service and many prayers. We were provided with meals, house cleaning, child care, laundry, home repairs, yard care, entertainment, listening ears, prayers and more prayers and much, much more.

Sister Survivors: "What was the hardest thing you had to go through during your cancer journey? What helped get you through it?"

DeLayne: "The hardest thing for me to get over during this cancer journey was my double mastectomy surgery. I remember the night before, looking at my saggy, droopy breasts and wishing that I could keep those darn things, knowing that I had been ungrateful for what I had. I vowed to never complain about the body I was blessed to have--and all it's parts. The anesthesia of the surgery did not sit well with me, and I struggled with that as well as the recovery process. I allowed myself sort of a mourning period, I suppose, but tried hard to stay upbeat and work hard to get to a new normal. Chemo also brought about a low I had never experienced in my life of such depressing and uncontrollable fatigue that I would often say, "I miss me." I got through these tough times with lots of prayer and lots of visits from amazing people. They helped me to laugh and cried with me and listened to me. A visit from a loved one always uplifted my soul."

Sister Survivors: "How did your cancer diagnosis change your life?"

DeLayne: "My cancer diagnosis has changed my life by giving me a bit more understanding of the fragility of life, and to live it to the fullest. I want my time with my husband and children to really count and be meaningful. I'm still learning and trying. I don't operate at full throttle yet, but we are patient --well, trying to be."

Sister Survivors: "What did you learn during your cancer journey?"

DeLayne: "During my cancer I learned that I love my husband, children, friends, and family very deeply. It is your relationship with people that counts and brings about the biggest blessing. I learned that people are really good. I learned I can do hard things, even if I'm not happy about it. I learned to be proactive when it comes to your health."



Sister Survivors: "What have you changed as a result of your cancer diagnosis?"

DeLayne: "Changes I have made are going to bed earlier, napping every day, be more conscious of my eating and exercise, to be more vocal in my love for others, real gratitude for others, and the amazing power of prayer."

Sister Survivors: "Do you have a favorite book or quote or song that became meaningful to you during your cancer journey?"

DeLayne: "I loved the book, "When Times Are Tough" by John Bytheway.

Favorite quote: "Now if you are going to win any battle you have to do one thing. You have to make the mind run the body. Never let the body tell the mind what to do. The body will always give up. It is always tired... But the body is never tired if the mind is not tired. You've always got to make the mind take over and keep going." George S. Patton, U.S. Army General and 1912 Olympian

Sister Survivors: "What advice would you give to friends and family of a newly diagnosed breast cancer patient?"

DeLayne: "Advice for family and friends is to be a part of the journey. Be a great listener. Sit with them. It's not about what you do for the person, it's just being there for and with them. Set goals for things to look forward to when each step is done and past. Be optimistic."

Sister Survivors: "Finish this sentence… “I am a…”

DeLayne: "I am... full of life and hope. I am happy. I am anxious to never get cancer again. I am optimistic. I am blessed!"

APRIL SPOTLIGHT - DENISE ANGELO

We are please to introduce Sister Survivor member, Denise Angelo. We love Denise - she adds so much to our meetings. She has a knack for winning the give-away! And, she graciously donated items to our auction last year. If you haven't met Denise yet, make sure you look for her at one of our support meetings. Enjoy reading about Denise...

Sister Survivors: "What were you diagnosed with, and what treatments did you have? Who were your doctors?"

Denise: "My diagnoses was Stage 1 breast cancer--right side only--in 2 places--for safety and surety I had a mastectomy--then total hysterectomy because the cancer was estrogen driven--no chemo or radiation--5 years of Femara. Doctors are Tittensor, Bishop, Wallentein, Thorpe."

Sister Survivors: "How did your cancer diagnosis affect your family and friends?"

Denise: "Mixture of emotions. But, when they realized that I wasn't going to let this illness win--everyone has been great!"

Sister Survivors: "What was the hardest thing you had to go through during your cancer journey? What helped get you through it?"

Denise: "Change in sleep habits due to hot flashes--also, mental changes--forgetfulness, etc. Medication helped some with the hot flashes. Love and support helped lots!"

Sister Survivors: "How did your cancer diagnosis change your life?"

Denise: "Because I had family history on both sides of my family--the diagnosis didn't come as a complete shock--plus we got the cancer way early--which is such a blessing. I have always loved life--but, now I appreciate life and health and family and friends--even more."

Sister Survivors: "What did you learn during your cancer journey?"

Denise: "That I am really loved." :O)

Sister Survivors: "What have you changed as a result of your cancer diagnosis?"

Denise: "My personal fears of the "C" word--I used to fear the word and the unknown that is associated with cancer--now I know that cancer is truly just a word not a sentence."

Sister Survivors: "Do you have a favorite book or quote or song that became meaningful to you during your cancer journey?"

Denise: "Quote - "It is what it is"--My Aunt Barb was diagnosed with ovarian cancer @ the same time--she and I supported each other and both came through with flying colors."

Sister Survivors: "What advice would you give to a woman who is newly diagnosed with breast cancer?"

Denise: "You are not alone. It can be scary--but, act on it--get rid of it."

Sister Survivors: "What advice would you give to friends and family of a newly diagnosed breast cancer patient?"

Denise: "Don't be afraid to be there for the patient."

Sister Survivors: "Finish this sentence… “I am a…”

Denise: "Survivor!"

March Spotlight - B-Jo Laing-Dumler

Our March spotlight is B-Jo Laing-Dumler. B-Jo has been part of our group since the beginning. She is a talented, happy person, and since she will be helping us out with a few thing over the next 6 months, I thought it would be fun to get to know her a little bit better. Enjoy the interview!



SISTER SURVIVORS: "What were you diagnosed with, and what treatments did you have? Who were your doctors?"

B-JO: "I was diagnosed with stage one breast cancer, I had two types, ductal and invasive. I am also HER2+. I had a mastectomy on Dec 2, 2009, port implant Dec 28, 2009 and first round of chemo Dec 29, 2009. I did four rounds of chemo; Cytoxin and Taxotere, along with Herceptin. I did the Herceptin treatments for a year (actually it went longer than a year, my last one of those was Feb 15, 2011). I had my tissue expander placed in July, (the 22nd, I believe) and the rest of my reconstruction was postponed from October, but is happening March 10th. I also get to have my port removed--wa-hoo!!!!! So, I am almost at the end, I am so excited. I had Dr. Tittensor, whom I believe truly saved my life. If she hadn't been such a caring doctor, willing to treat despite the lack of insurance and willing to remove an infectious growth from my breast, I might not have found out about the cancer until it was too late. She also performed my mastectomy and my port placement. Dr. Wendy Breyer is my oncologist. I did all of my chemo treatments at IV therapy at AF hospital, but I was able to do some of my Herceptin treatments at the cancer clinic next door. Dr. Bishop will be doing my reconstruction, he has taken exceptional care of me.

SISTER SURVIVORS: "How did your cancer diagnosis affect your family and friends?"

B-JO: "It was hardest on my husband, he had lost his parents earlier in the year, his mother (actually grandmother, but his grandparents raised him so he thinks of them as mom and dad) passed in April 2009 and his dad in July 2009. The day I found out (November 17) I called to tell him about my visit and he was kind of being a jerk to me on the phone, so instead of being nice I just told him I had cancer and how did he like that. One of us hung up on the other, but I do not recall which. When I finally convinced him I was not dying he did a little better. I think it was really hard, cause he is the one who is sick and has to go to the hospital, not me, so seeing me this way was really hard for him. Most of my friends and family rallied for me, and in a way, it has made me a stronger person, although, I have noticed when people tell me how much they admire me and my strength, it is usually when I am feeling at my weakest. I have also made so many new friends in the club we did not ask to be a part of, but is exclusive to us. I know that much of my strength comes from those who have prayed on my behalf, if not for that I would not have made it."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What was the hardest thing you had to go through during your cancer journey? What helped get you through it?"

B-JO: "I am currently going through some of my most difficult right now. As hard as it was to be diagnosed, as hard as chemo was, it wasn't nearly as awful as I thought, as hard as other moments have been. Recently I have been dealing with anxiety and depression and a little feeling of worthlessness. I keep telling Satan to get out of my head, but I was diagnosed with depression ten years ago and have been off on medication that time. I am currently on meds, but winter is always harder for me than any other time of year. I think last year I had to focus all my energies on getting through chemo and that helped to distract me. This year, there has been uncertainty, and it has been more difficult, my husband's health is getting worse too, and that plays a roll as well."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "How did your cancer diagnosis change your life?"

B-JO: "My mom had always told my brother and I while we were growing up, that cancer wasn't so much an 'if' but a 'when'. We had too much familial history of different kinds of cancers. And while I may not have an immediate or direct family history of breast cancer it is still a possibility. I can remember being in my early twenties and hearing of a girl my age being diagnosed and worrying that it might happen to me. Actually having cancer and having it caught early on, it made me realize the Lord has his own plans and I am blessed to have my life. There is a plan for me and I have something to accomplish in this life."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What did you learn during your cancer journey?"

B-JO: "I am capable of a lot more than I thought, and while things may seem bad for me, there is a chance that someone is worse off. While I knew this before, it was reiterated time and time again. Also, one very big lesson, I am loved and I am worth something to someone somewhere.

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What have you changed as a result of your cancer diagnosis?"

B-JO: "Not as much as I feel I should, in fact there are some areas where I feel like I have backslid somewhat. There are things I want to change, but I am not sure if it is fear or laziness that is stopping me. I do feel like after my surgery, I am having a new start again, so, I hope to make some big changes, but in little steps.

SISTER SURVIVORS: "Do you have a favorite book, quote, or song that became meaningful to you during your cancer journey?"

B-JO: :I'm not sure if there is one thing. I know that I will sometimes hear a song or see a show, that I had heard or seen before, and it will hit me just a little differently. I am still the same B-Jo, I am learning and growing all the time. Whether it is going forward or back is up to me and I have done both, even after diagnosis. But please remember, I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve and I can cry at the drop of a hat. I cannot watch animal movies, and almost every time I see the flag or hear the National Anthem, I cry, from pride, from sorrow for those who have given their lives, over babies born, over death. I am a crybaby, but I probably would not have me any other way."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What advice would you give to a woman who is newly diagnosed with breast cancer?"

B-JO: "If you need to cry, do it. If you have questions, research or ask someone, don't blindly follow what they tell you. Trust your instincts, and somebody somewhere is likely worse off than you are. Don't wish this on anyone, but don't feel like you won't make it through yourself. You are strong, there is hope, and God will care for you no matter what."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What advice would you give to friends and family of a newly diagnosed breast cancer patient?"

B-JO: "If she says she want to eat something crazy, let her. If she's tired, let her rest. If she needs to cry, be her shoulder. If she needs to vent, be her ear. If she cannot stand the smell of something, don't use it around her, or get it out of the house. If she says she cannot, tell her she can!"

SISTER SURVIVORS: "Finish this sentence… “I am a…”

B-JO: "...a child of God, a daughter, an aunt, a woman, a friend, I am sensitive, emotional, caring, eclectic, funny, weird, but I am a survivor and I will go on!"

February Spotlight - Kathy Howard

This month, our interview is with cancer survivor, Kathy Howard. We love to see Kathy's smiling face at our meetings each month, and it was wonderful to get to know her better - hope you enjoy the interview...

Sister Survivors: "What were you diagnosed with, and what treatments did you have? Who were your doctors? "

Kathy: "The original diagnoses in 2001 was stage 4 breast cancer. Recurrent breast cancer in 2008. In 2001 8 doses of Taxol and Adriamycin. In April of 2002 I went through a High Dosage Chemo with Stem Cell rescue, followed with 6.5 weeks of radiation. 2008 8 doses of Cytoxan and Taxotere. My doctors were Barry McKenzie from Springfield, Oregon. Richard Maziarz from Portland, Oregon. Wendy Breyer from American Fork.

Sister Survivors: "How did your cancer diagnosis affect your family and friends?"

Kathy: "They were in shock, denial, and very supportive."

Sister Survivors: "What was the hardest thing you had to go through during your cancer journey? What helped get you through it?"

Kathy: "The hardest part to me was explaining everything to my daughter who was 5 years old at the time. She didn't know what was happening and at times didn't even recognize me. The support and love of my family gave me the strength to fight and helped me get through it."

Sister Survivors: "How did your cancer diagnosis change your life?"

Kathy: "Physically I will never be as strong as I was before all the chemo and drugs. I miss not being able to do some of the activities I enjoyed doing. Mentally I now have "chemo brain" and hope for the best each day.

Sister Survivors: "What did you learn during your cancer journey?"

Kathy: "I realized life is too precious to take for granted. You have to live each day to the fullest. Enjoy your family and friends!! Never ask the question "Why Me", just accept what has happened and concentrate on beating the odds."

Sister Survivors: "What have you changed as a result of your cancer diagnosis?"

Kathy: "Let the little things in life stay little. Don't make a big deal out of stuff. Changed my diet to a much healthier one."

Sister Survivors: "Do you have a favorite book or quote or song that became meaningful to you during your cancer journey?"

Kathy: "Songs by Reba McIntire "I am a survivor" and "I'll be"

Sister Survivors: "What advice would you give to a woman who is newly diagnosed with breast cancer?"

Kathy: "Have a positive attitude and never ask the question "Why Me". Never give up."

Sister Survivors: "What advice would you give to friends and family of a newly diagnosed breast cancer patient?"

Kathy: "You will probably never understand what your loved one is going through, but be very supportive and listen. They will always need a shoulder. Listen to everything that is being said by the doctors, because once you are told you have cancer everything else is a blur. Always be positive even when things seem really bad.

Sister Survivors: "Finish this sentence… “I am a…"

Kathy: "Fighter and I said from day 1 when I got the diagnosis that I was not going to let this disease beat me!!!"

January Spotlight - Cressent Page

The spotlight for January, here at Sister Survivors, is Cressent Page.

Cressent has accepted the position of Treasurer on our board, and will be joining our team shortly. I'm excited to get to know more about her, as I'm sure all of you are...

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What were you diagnosed with, what treatments did you have, and who were your doctors?"

CRESSENT: "Invasive ductal carcinoma stage 4. I had 6 chemo treatments every three weeks, mastectomy with reconstruction, then I had 33 radiation treatments. My doctors were Doctor Rich and Doctor Tudor."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "How did your cancer diagnosis affect your family and friends?"

CRESSENT: "My two older girls took my my diagnosis the worst. They thought I would die, and so did I. My husband was the positive one from the beginning. He said, "You are tough and you will get through this and your body will recover."
Cressent, and husband, Mark

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What was the hardest thing you had to go through during your cancer journey? What helped get you through it?"

CRESSENT: "My gull bladder - Days after my fourth chemo treatment, I was really sick and threw up for nine days. I was so weak I could not even walk. My family doctor admitted me to the hospital and the next morning they took out my gull bladder. It was really gross, it had 60 to 70 large stones. My surgeons said it was the worst they had ever seen. My attitude toward having cancer changed after that. Being sick with a bad gull bladder was a lot worse than having cancer. I knew, I would survive cancer."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "How did your cancer diagnosis change your life?"

CRESSENT: "I eat really healthy now and exercise a lot. I try to make more meaningful time with my kids, husband, extended family and friends. I also make and take time for myself to learn and grow and enjoy new things."
Twins, Jori, and Joshua

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What did you learn during your cancer journey?"

CRESSENT: "Enjoy every minute of your life. Don't let a good opportunity pass you by, and surround yourself with things that make you happy!" :)

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What have you changed as a result of your cancer diagnosis?"

CRESSENT: "I am more compassionate towards others. If I see someone in need I am right by their side trying to help with their situation."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "Do you have a favorite book or quote or song that became meaningful to you during your cancer journey?"

CRESSENT: "A friend made me a sticker for my vehicle that said Cancer Sucks. So, I pretty much stuck with that statement."
Daughter, Drew

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What advice would you give to a woman who is newly diagnosed with breast cancer?"

CRESSENT: "Cry, it's okay to do that. Learn as much as you can about your kind of cancer and find a doctor you like. Surround yourself with positive people in your life. Make cancer a learning journey, have a good attitude. Cancer sucks, but your life dose not have to!"

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What advice would you give to friends and family of a newly diagnosed breast cancer patient?"

CRESSENT: "Talk about the situation together and openly. Cancer is not something one should whisper about. Be there for each other - comfort the hard days and embrace the good days."
Daughter, Amber

SISTER SURVIVORS: Finish this sentence… “I am a…”"

CRESSENT: I am a... tough cookie, who loves to stop and smell the roses. I live each day to the fullest. I am a strong willed, wonderful, courageous, sometimes demanding woman who loves pleasing others."

CANCER SURVIVOR, Mossi White...

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What were you diagnosed with? What treatments did you have, and who were your doctors?"

MOSSI: "I was diagnosed with stage two invasive ductal carcinoma. I had a lumpectomy and Brachey therapy radiation. Dr. McClellan was the radiologist who did the biopsy and gave me the diagnosis. Dr. Tudor is my oncologist and wonderful Dr. Tittensor is the surgeon. Dr. Hayes is the radiation specialist."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "How did your cancer diagnosis affect your family and friends?"

MOSSI: "The cancer diagnosis was described by my one daughter as the most horrible, enormous wreck (as in car wreck). Two of my daughters became acutely afraid of losing me. My entire family was extremely comforting and supportive. I am a very independent person, but all of a sudden my daughters wanted to accompany me to every doctor's appointment. They were wonderful, as were all of my friends. I felt enveloped in a lot of love."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What was the hardest thing you had to go through during your cancer journey? What helped you get through it?"

MOSSI: "The absolutely hardest thing was not knowing what the right treatment was. I prayed a lot and all of a sudden the pieces fell into place and "the right" doctors came into my life. I have to admit, however, that I still wonder about some of the treatment options that I chose. Cancer is scary."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "How did your cancer diagnosis change your life?"

MOSSI: "I have always loved life and wanted to live for ever! But now I truly realize how precious and also how fragile life is. I savour every moment."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What did you learn during your cancer journey?"

MOSSI: "I learned that I had to give up some control and trust the medical experts. That was not easy for me. I also learned that I am stronger than I thought and that my world is filled with loving, caring, wonderful people."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What have you changed as a result of your cancer diagnosis?"

MOSSI: "I have learned that most of the things I used to worry about are not worth the time or the energy. I will now also drop whatever I am doing and go and "play" with my daughters on a moment's notice. I used to donate my time freely to a lot of causes. Now I am very selective."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "Do you have a favorite book, quote, or song that became meaningful to you during your cancer journey?"

MOSSI: "Poetess Carol Lynn Pearson wrote a poem about "Trial number five." In it she prays fervently that God will not send her trial number five. Anything, but that one. Then it comes, neatly wrapped and addressed to her. It ends with her thanking God for trial number five, because it taught her that she could handle even that and survive! Cancer is my trial number five."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What advice would you give to a woman who is newly diagnosed with breast cancer?"

MOSSI: "Research all the things you can and then turn it over to the Lord!! Also, find the things that make you laugh!!! Laugh a lot - it really is possible even in this situation. Nightly I watch reruns of comedy shows. I highly recommend it!!"

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What advice would you give to friends and family of a newly diagnosed cancer patient?"

MOSSI: "Be continually reassuring, but don't let cancer define who she is. Just be there when she needs you to talk or simply to hug. Validate her feelings."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "Finish this sentence: "I am a ..."

MOSSI: " I am Mossi - I am a survivor."

CANCER SURVIVOR, SALOTE BERNARD

This month, our spotlight is on Salote (Sally) Bernard. Hope you enjoy the interview!
Sally and her daughter.

Sister Survivors: "What were you diagnosed with, and what treatments did you have? Who were your doctors?"

Salote: "I was diagnosed with pulmonary ductal cancer. I didn't have any treatment, they told me I was cancer free. My doctors... Dr. Schofield, and Dr. Brown and my reconstruction doctor Bishop."

Sister Survivors: " How did your cancer diagnosis affect your family and friends?"

Salote: "Everyone was scared and afraid, and didn't really know how to express themselves. I told my family we all have to have faith, and learn to love each other more, and do what is right. Cancer is just a word - they won't discuss it much in our family. Everyday they asked me how I am feeling."

Sister Survivors: "What was the hardest thing you had to go through during your cancer journey? What helped get you through it?"

Salote: "My hardest recovery was the reconstruction of my breast. I had so many ups and downs, and I feel like I am having cancer treatment. It was hard and at times I cried quietly. I prayed alot and asked my Heavenly Father for strength, since it seems I am the strength that keeps everyone in my family together. Just knowing they love, and also my Heavenly Father loves me, it keeps me going and my strength is alive again. I know this is my trial in my life, a challenge that I have to face. It comforts me."

Sister Survivors: "How did your cancer diagnosis change your life?"

Salote: "My children and my husband, they were there for me all the time, asking about my needs. The love they have for me, their strength, and not only that... you, the Sister Survivor sisters. It helps alot just coming to the meetings and hearing about your stories, and your strength helps me too."

Sister Survivors: "What did you learn during your cancer journey?"

Salote: "I knew all my life that I will die of cancer. In a way my Heavenly Father has prepared me for this time of my life with this journey that I will be taking. I didn't know what kind of cancer. The only change in my life since I have cancer is my strength. I am very tired all the time, and I can't do things like I used to do before... working long hours, lifting things, cleaning. Those are the things I have noticed, or the changes."

Sister Survivors: "What have you changed as a result of your cancer diagnosis?"

Salote: "To give more of myself, and to live less negativeness about others. Also have a smiling face, and also cherish the good and the bad times, enjoy life and live life to the fullest."

Sister Survivors: "Do you have a favorite book or quote or song that became meaningful to you during your cancer journey?"

Salote: "I love the Book of Mormon and attending the temple every week.
My favorite Songs: LOVE IS SPOKEN HERE and I KNOW MY FATHER LIVES
Quote: ISAIAH 41:10... Fear thou not. I am with thee, be not dismayed, for I am thy god. I will strengthen thee, yea, I will help thee, yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of righteous."

Sister Survivors: "What advice would you give to a woman who is newly diagnosed with breast cancer?"

Salote: "My advice is if you have been diagnosed with cancer, learn all you can, and live life to the fullest. Our lives are full of trials and this is a trial - a journey for us to make things better for ourselves and families, to strength our families. Smile, don't feel that this is it, know God love us so much that he gave us trials to uplift us and our love ones."

Sister Survivors: "What advice would you give to friends and family of a newly diagnosed breast cancer patient?"

Salote: "Not to take cancer as a bad thing that is happening to you or your family, but a journey of life togther, a journey of reuniting ourselves, a journey to love each other unconditionally, a journey to help others, a journey of strength. Don't let life get you down or this cancer. We can laugh alot, smile alot. Our Heavenly Father said, I didn't say it will be easy, but it will be worth it."

Sister Survivors: "Finish this sentence… “I am a…”

Salote: "I AM A SURVIVOR!"

Thank you, Sister Survivors, for giving me this opportunity, and I am looking forward to getting to know all you more.

Thank you again.

Love,
Sally Bernard

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What were you diagnosed with, and what treatments did you have? Who were your doctors?"

KIM: "I was diagnosed last July with Stage 1 micro-invasive ductal carcinoma (DCIS). I have a family history of breast cancer so my surgeon Dr. Peugh recommended getting the BRCA gene test and I tested positive for the BRCA2 gene. I decided to do a bi-lateral mastectomy and with the doctor's recommendation I had an oophorectomy performed at the same time. The cancer was found early so I didn't need to take radiation or chemotherapy. My cancer is estrogen positive so I am taking Femara an estrogen blocker. Dr. Bishop is my plastic surgeon."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "How did your cancer diagnosis affect your family and friends?"

KIM: "My sister and I are the 4th generation to our knowledge to be affected by the BRCA2 gene. My sister is a 20 year breast cancer survivor. Her daughter who was a senior in college was able to get the BRCA2 gene test under my serial number and tested negative. My sister then got the test done and was positive. It was such a relief for all of us that my niece was negative. My niece was planning to get a bi-lateral mastectomy done if she was positive. I haven't had my children tested yet. It's information I'm not ready to know."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What was the hardest thing you had to go through during your cancer journey? What helped get you through it?"

KIM: "The hardest thing for me was getting over the pain of the surgery. The pain truly took over my body. Having dear family and friends I could call on a heart-beat was very reassuring."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "How did your cancer diagnosis change your life?

KIM: "I don't let things bug me like they use to. I'm more patient with myself and with others. On the other side of things I really appreciate all the little things and notice the beauty in all things. One day I was sitting at the kitchen table and my son notice a duck in our backyard. I got to enjoy only for a moment the beauty of this duck and thanked the Lord."



SISTER SURVIVORS: "What did you learn during your cancer journey?"

KIM: "What did I learn from my cancer journey? That's an ongoing journey. I have learned to enjoy every moment of the day and try to embrace it with joy. Some days are hard but I try to do my best."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What have you changed as a result of your cancer diagnosis?"

KIM: "The number one thing I have changed is my diet. I drink green smoothies daily and I am a vegetarian."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "Do you have a favorite book or quote or song that became meaningful to you during your cancer journey?"

KIM: "The one quote that I have lived by for the past 30 years comes from my mom "If something bad happens look for the good" I have always found the good and have experienced many blessings from a positive out-look on life."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What advice would you give to a woman who is newly diagnosed with breast cancer?"

KIM: "There is so much advice to give but I think I would tell someone that "Time heals all wounds and to be patient with yourself."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What advice would you give to friends and family of a newly diagnosed breast cancer patient?"

KIM: "Listen and allow them to freely talk about their fears and anxiety. I felt like I had to be strong and couldn't cry in front of anyone because I didn't want to scare them."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "Finish this sentence… “I am a…”

KIM: "I am a beautiful, courageous, loving, kind, grateful daughter of God. I am not my body. I am a perfect spirit with wonderful qualities that make up my humaness."

CANCER SURVIVOR, JUDY ANN BEHUNIN...

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What were you diagnosed with, and what treatments did you have? Who were your doctors?"

JUDY: "I was diagnosed with Stage 3A, grade 3, Invasive Ductal Breast Cancer in the left breast. I was ER/PR positive, and Her-2/neu negative. I was treated with 8 rounds of chemotherapy, mastectomy, radiation, and reconstruction. Dr. Tittensor was my surgeon, and Dr. Bishop was my reconstruction surgeon. Dr Rich and Dr. Clark were my oncologists.



SISTER SURVIVORS: "How did your cancer diagnosis affect your family and friends?"

JUDY: "Initially, we were all terrified and thought it was a death sentence. My mother died just one month before my diagnosis and my family had just suffered through this. It was all too much for us. My amazing husband was a rock, and he gave me many priesthood blessings, and accompanied me to all my medical appointments. He was and is my hero. My younger 8-year-old became very insecure and clingy, and wouldn’t let me out of her sight. Our friends and distant family gave us so much support. In fact, when I was so sick with chemo, our neighborhood family totally organized, funded, and manned our son’s wedding. I felt and still feel so humbled at the generosity that so many people gave to me. My teenage son spent a lot of time in his room just trying to come to terms with my cancer. He became very emotional and moody. My children loved my bald head, and would massage my head."



SISTER SURVIVORS: "What was the hardest thing you had to go through during your cancer journey? What helped get you through it?"

JUDY: "When I was first diagnosed I was working a physically challenging job. I was so weak from the chemo that I passed out at work on a couple of occasions. It was very hard for me to get through that. I felt so embarrassed. Coupled with this was the fact that I was still mourning the death of my mother, and imagining all the terrible “what ifs” that could happen The chemo made me so sick that I couldn’t think, work, or function. I couldn’t even drive safely, so I started feeling depressed. I couldn’t eat very much at all. To combat this I listened to positive music, and kept a “gratitude journal”. I made my family take me for rides in the car. My friends organized visiting assignments for me. I read the scriptures and prayed. Gradually my usual cheery outlook emerged and I made it through."



SISTER SURVIVORS: "How did your cancer diagnosis change your life?"

JUDY: "I am much more health-conscious now. During chemo I lost 80 pounds, and I have been able to keep it off by changing my eating habits. Now my whole family eats healthier. I am more confident, outgoing, brave, and joyful now than before. I feel that I have a second chance at life, and I will no longer stand back and watch as life passes me by. I live for the moment and possibilities now and don’t worry so much about the “what ifs”. There is no better time than the present, so why put things off? For instance, our whole family is going on a cruise next month. I don’t think I would have planned a cruise before my diagnosis because I would have thought that we didn’t have enough money or time."



SISTER SURVIVORS: "What did you learn during your cancer journey?"

JUDY: "I have learned so many wonderful things. I guess one thing I have learned is that a “beautiful woman” is NOT a woman because of her body. The essence of womanhood comes from her soul and spirit, not her body. Secondly, I learned that we as human beings have an amazing ability to lift each other up. I like the quote “If the essence of my being has caused a smile to have appeared upon your face or a touch of joy within your heart, then in living I have made my mark”. By TL Odem, Jr. Thirdly, I learned that inside me there is a hero, and I can count on me, and so can others. "



SISTER SURVIVORS: "What have you changed as a result of your cancer diagnosis?"

JUDY: "I have learned to live for every moment and every relationship. Now I don’t “borrow” trouble by assuming the negative, or waste time by giving negative thoughts my attention."



SISTER SURVIVORS: "Do you have a favorite book or quote or song that became meaningful to you during your cancer journey?"

JUDY: "When I was having radiation, there was a verse taped on the wall of the dressing room. It was written by Eileen Lee, a breast cancer survivor. I copied that poem down one day, and hung it on my mirror. This verse has helped me to understand myself and find peace in each moment."



SISTER SURVIVORS: "What advice would you give to a woman who is newly diagnosed with breast cancer?"

JUDY: "I would just say, “Be patient with yourself. This too shall pass. Breast cancer is NOT usually a death sentence. Educate yourself to make informed decisions, and ASK for HELP.”


SISTER SURVIVORS: "What advice would you give to friends and family of a newly diagnosed breast cancer patient?"


JUDY: "The breast cancer patient sometimes needs to vent their feelings of anxiety, or frustration, or fear, or whatever. It is healthy for the patient to do so in a safe environment. Don’t be offended by their venting. Don’t think you can fix them or make them all better. Your role in their life is in supporting them as they work through this trial. Be positive with them and try to encourage them to live life as normally as possible and to talk about their feelings. Taking them places and doing things away from home can be very therapeutic."



SISTER SURVIVORS: "Finish this sentence… “I am a…”

JUDY: "I am a compassionate, cheerful friend, and a loving woman."

Thanks to Judy for a wonderful interview. If you'd like contact Judy, email us at sistersurvivors(at)gmail(dot)com, and we'll be happy to send the message on.

CANCER SURVIVOR, BETHANIE NEWBY...

Here at Sister Survivors blog, we'll be introducing you to a fellow cancer survivor each month. We are please to bring you an interview with Bethanie Newby - one of the cancer survivor on the board of Sister Survivors. ENJOY!!

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What were you diagnosed with, and what treatments did you have? Who were your doctors?"

BETHANIE: "Bilateral, infiltrating Lobular Carcinoma, ER/PR positive, HER2 negative, treated with mastectomy, chemotherapy, radiation, and reconstruction. Dr. Tittensor and Dr. Bishop were my surgeons, and Dr. Rich and Dr. Clark were my oncologists."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "How did your cancer diagnosis affect your family and friends?"

BETHANIE: "My husband was right there beside me through the doctor's visits, tests, and decisions. He is a hero to me. Relatives, friends, and neighbors rallied to give love and support. My five children, ages 5-17, seemed to handle it OK, although they each wanted to know if I was going to die. It was harder for them when they saw me in pain from surgery and chemo. None of them were comfortable with my bald head. Maybe that's why they prayed everyday for months that it would grow back."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What was the hardest thing you had to go through during your cancer journey? What helped get you through it?"

BETHANIE: "My mother died of ovarian cancer, and I was terrified I would die the same way. In fact, the fear that my life would be cut short was my greatest challenge. I was frightened and angry in equal measure. What helped me through my fear and strengthened me for the journey was threefold - a caring and compassionate medical team, the fierce devotion of my loved ones, and a special witness of God's infinite love."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "How did your cancer diagnosis change your life?"

BETHANIE: "I have officially stopped waiting until my kids get older, we have more money, I get in better shape, my house is cleaner, etc. These days I am more careful about what I give my time to, and more free with what I give my heart to."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What did you learn during your cancer journey?"

BETHANIE: "Now is good. We can't control what happens, only manage it. The journey of life is meant to be shared."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "Do you have a favorite book or quote or song that became meaningful to you during your cancer journey?"

BETHANIE: "The book, Happiness in a Storm, by Wendy Harpham, MD, is written by a doctor and cancer survivor who shows us how to live fully through all stages of cancer treatment, recovery, recurrence, and healing."

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What advice would you give to a woman who is newly diagnosed with breast cancer?"

BETHANIE: "Please don't try to fight this battle alone. Gather your friends and family close, and enlist them and your doctors in your journey of healing. Ask lots of questions so you can make careful, informed decisions. Make sure your decisions are based on what feels right for you. Finally, trust in God, your caregivers, and yourself. You can do this!

SISTER SURVIVORS: "What advice would you give to friends and family of a newly diagnosed breast cancer patient?"

BETHANIE: "Start a care page for your loved one. There are wonderful sites on the internet already, like CaringBridge.com, that let you provide updates on the cancer patient, while receiving messages from friends and family. It's a great way to communicate with a lot of people without making it hard on the one going through treatment. Let the cancer patient talk about what is happening and how she is feeling, but don't pry. In fact, there are three things you should never do. They are 1) Don't ask anyone what they have in their bank account; 2) Don't ask a rancher how many cows he has; and 3) Never ask a cancer survivor what her prognosis is.

SISTER SURVIVORS: "Finish this sentence… “I am a…”

BETHANIE: "I am a Fearless, Wise and Loving Warrior Woman."

If you'd like to contact Bethanie, please email us at sistersurvivors(at)gmail(dot)com, and we'll pass your email along.